Pretentious Me

People say that you will never survive life if you don’t know how to pretend. But some say that being pretentious holds you back from being who you really are. So, what do we do now? I say that there are situations where in we should and should not pretend. There are circumstances where in it is better that we hide what we really feel rather than exposing our weakness to the people around us. Sometimes, it is better that we pretend that we are not hurt than to show people how weak we are.

In my personal experiences, I’ve been hurt many times, physically and emotionally, and in these cases I’ve been weak. I have shown to the people around me how hurt I was thinking that they would stand by me. But it went the other way around. They saw weakness in me and thought I was not good enough. This experience taught me that it was not good exposing my weakness to people, I’d rather pretend than to be scrutinized. My friends now ask me, how do I do it? There are simple ways on how to pretend you are not hurt. Actually, there is only a couple of ways, and here’s how.

1. If you fall from the stairs and a couple of people saw you and laughed at you, stand up gracefully like and smile with a little raise of the eyebrows. This will tell them that you are not embarrassed at all and it might happen to them one of these days. J

2. If someone tells you a joke and you got offended, don’t show them that, smile and ignore what they say. Be confident of who you are. But it is better if you think of a better joke to tell but in a subtle way. J

3. Lastly, if you got heartbroken, for example you boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you because he or she found another, smile and move over. The world does not stop revolving and life does not end after him or her. There is still more to life.

My only secret in pretending not to be hurt is to always smile; no one will know you’re bruised inside. It’s not bad to pretend, unless you are hurting someone in the process. But, as I’ve said, pretending is better in SOME situations not ALL. We are entitled with our own emotions and feelings. My friends say that I’ve mastered the art of pretending not to be hurt, but deep inside I am scarred and wounded with all that happened in the 21 years of my life. When I am with people, there’s no hurt, pain or suffering that can be seen through me, but when I’m alone, the scars, the wounds will bleed altogether. This is the set back of pretending if I may say. You have no one to confide with but yourself.